To Block or Not to Block… Is that the question?

2022 The Year of Aesthetics №38

For you Motherf*****s who can’t let it go…

You wishuwish you neva neva met her! ~ Polly Jane Harvey - Rid of Me

I block idiot! ~NNT

If you think your so important that the world revolves around you and conspires against your f*cking nuts! ~ discussion between two sixteen year old friends

If you are going to find interesting friends and be an interesting person you are to have do deal with people that won’t get along, but you don’t have to choose between them just don’t try to get them together at a cocktail party. ~ James Rout (The Founder of Routism)

This isn’t Shakespeare, I see a lot of whinging and whining about so and so blocked by so and so, lately. I have found that as soon as this happens there is a reflex that is divorce, where bifurcated camps form and each side vilifies the opposing camp. Camps are hunting for faux pas and questionable statements like trophy hunters , NOTE EVERYONE OF US HAS SAID SH*T ON TWITTER, be careful about throwing that first stone. To this collective trophy hunters and petite warriors on twitter I have one word of advice, Knock that Sh*t off. It does you little good other than bringing on a wave of personal ugliness.

I believe in free association and implication that if someone is sick of you for any reason they can cut ties with you. I find that the people that block me were on the outs with me anyway and we were at law of diminishing return stage anyway. Part of my marriage being a success is that I realized my exs (who I was much more intimate that twitter pals) were not the devil and things did not work out because of timing, or we just weren't right for each other AND THAT I WAS PART OF THE EQUATION. This need to vilify is a defense mechanism that can do you a great deal of harm if not checked at a certain point. It always goes to far and TOOOOO LONG. I have seen this vilification happen to friends, couples, business partners if you must part it is good to make a clean break and get on with things. (and I have my black kettle moments BTW. , I have picked up the stone when it was best left on the ground.)

If you end up in a pattern where everyone is wrong and you are prosecuted righteous one all the time, you are going to end up in a boring group of people of the same ilk. I am taking a block or two to risk meeting interesting people, this implies sometimes being the bigger person or having a thicker skin, AND AND, AND, it is better than trafficking's among the boring.

There is a degree of narcissism and lack of stoic character if can’t get over a twitter break up. Also no one owes you a personal 24 hour a day debate platform. I have had my feeling hurt but blocks when starting twitter, but a at a point less and less so as time goes by, and now I look immediately at the plus side.

I find that if you don’t want to be blocked let some things go or agree to disagree. There are some things that me and people as smart or smarter than me that have passionate and I feel blindered opinions, but to look at their thought is interesting it is even interesting to disagree with them.

I have blocked those people who immediately assume my motivations, or just won’t let shit go. I do find the mute function much softer for those you just need a break from.

I have moved to be as neutral as I can in these spats as a wise man said,

“Ernest, ya don’t have to enter every mosh pit.” ~Paul Portesi

It should be noted I like twitter more and more. I find it a place to engage and I don’t feel like I am free to speak my mind. I keep finding interesting people to converse with.

See it coming, I’m not scared! ~PJ HARVEY